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NOTE: The spelling and grammar of questions sent to Courtney have not been
corrected, they are printed verbatim as Courtney receives them.
Dear Courtney,
I'm 18 years old and im in this relationship with this guy and we have been going out since october 20,2004 and we broke up for 2 weeks in the middle of february cause we had so many problems and when we started to go back out he told me that he thinks i don't love him cause i found someone else in those two weeks cause i did not know if we're gonna get back together.and now every time i tell him i love him says yeah right and i always say i do cause i don't want to loose him. so courtney can you help me out cause i really do love him and i don't want to loose him ever.oh yeah and he wants to have a baby with me but im scared that he might not want it or he might tell me that it is someone else and he is the only one i love and can have babies with. thank you very much,
M. 18 WI
Dear M,
Stop. Breathe. So you've been dating this person for about six months, with the exception of the time that you left him for someone else because there were "problems." Do you think that maybe he doubts your commitment to the relationship because his self worth may be a little shaken since you left him and managed to have an affair in such a short time? And about having a baby...sweetie, you have to be kidding. The relationship is hanging by a thread. What do you think having a baby will accomplish other than creating a human being for whom YOU are responsible and intertwining you and your boyfriend for the rest of your lives? Fix the relationship, then after a year or two maybe it will time to talk about having a child. But you have a long way to go girlfriend.
Your E-Love Advisor,
Courtney
Dear Courtney,
I've been dating this guy that is 2 years younger then me.well i want to tell him i'm pregant with his kid but i don't know how i should tell him cause i told him i could not get pregant cause i was on the patch.but now i'm pregant and i want to tell him but i'm scared of what he might do when he finds out can you help me?
thank you,
M. 17 WI
Dear M,
So, you're pregnant from a 15 year old boy. I'll spare you THAT lecture. You have to tell him. Considering his age, he will be absolutely overwhelmed by the news. Plan for it. He needs to know that you will be supportive of him, just as you need him to be supportive of you. Do it in a safe environment. He will be emotional...let them pour out. Once the feelings have been realized, then the work of planning can begin. Work together, be together and you can manage the situation. Let me know how it works out.
Your e-love advisor,
Courtney
Dear Courtney,
Hi--
I am haveing a little problem, I really like this guy that I work with and I was sure that he liked me, but then on Saturday, he ignored me and I called him and left a message and he hasn't called me back, I haven't spoken to him since Friday night and I wasn't sure what was going on so I went to his apartment and his car was there but he never answered his door. Could you tell me what might be going on? I am really sad these days and this is making me sader and sick.
T. 18 WI
Dear T,
It sounds like he may have felt a spark is now avoiding you like the IRS. He's not ready for anything more than friendship sweetie, move on.
Your e-love advisor,
Courtney
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