Dear Courtney,

Brief History first. There was this girl, that liked me a lot since I was a senior in high school and she was a sophomore. I didn't really know her until I came home from college my first year out of high school around xmas break and I met her. We would see each here and there for a few years, and my last year of college, i'm 22 at the time and she is 20, we started to talk and hang out whenever i came home from school breaks. As soon as I graduated and came home in may, we got together right away. Soon I was going to the family reunions, and doing stuff with the family. We were only together for about 2 months. Then she broke up with me.

I was coming on way too strong, I was the typical guy who was too nice, and did all the wrong things. I basically was a pushover, going, i would do this for you and that for you if that is what you want. I wasn't all thatt strong. I started to go to therapy at the tail end of it all because of all that crap. I then just came on way too strong, and we both just went to fast and it ended up pushing her away.

She said to me, "i just want to be friends. I still like you and care about you, but I just want to be friends right now, just want to be friends for like a year and then get real serious with you."

because when we were together, marriage talk did come out of her, like if we were to get married, could we raise the kids my religion and all that.

I continued to go to therapy and kept trying to get her back, but that didn't work. It went on like that for a couple of months, I ended up making her mad a few times, because when she wouldn't take me back, i would get mad and angry and say mean things to her. She turned 21 during this time and she is still in college, wheras i'm done now, i've graduated and i'm in my career where i work everyday monday through friday.

I took her to a concert with my brother and a friend. She really liked that, and she ended up getting a card and some candy for me because I took her. So she had that at her house along with some of my other things from when we were together that I still have to get from her.

One day she called me, like a week to 2 weeks after the concert and told me she had the card and we tried getting it to me the next day, but neither one called the other thinking that the other would call, so we missed each ohter, we each thought the other was just busy. I see her every now and then out and about, and she hugs me and still comes up to me and talks to me like she likes me still. Later, a week later after we tried getting the card to me, she was talking to me for awhile at the bar and when she left, she leaned over and kissed me a few times on the cheek, not just once but a few. Then a couple of weeks go by again and its my birthday... Now the entire time after all this, after the concert, i am not contacting her, i'm just leaving her alone. She calls me up on my bday, and i miss it, so she leaves a message and says.. "hey, just wanted to say happy birthday cause i remembered, if you want to call me back you can, if not that is fine to, just wanted to say happy birthday and feel free to call me whenever cause, i kinda miss talking to you, plus i still have that card and candy for you, so we need to get that to you."

I called her back like 30 min. later and kept it short, all i said was thanks for callign i really appreciate and that i will let you go, since she was out doing something.

I saw her later in the week out and about at the bar, she did the usual, came up, talked to me and hugged me and that was that.

Now were at the present time frame. My question is this.

What do i do in regards to her. I still like her and I want her back badly. I want her to increase attraction in me again and want to get back together with me. What is the best thing for me to do so that there are the best possibilities of that happening, and also, I do know that I have to move on also, in case we dont' ever get back together, because obviously that could very well happen. Heck she may not even love me like that anymore and just like me as a friend. Your thoughts please, I would greatly appreciate it.

Thanks.

D. 23 MO